in my mind recently i have been toying with this concept of wanting to be someone else that we are not or wanting an attribute that we do not posses, whether it be white teeth, that certain hair, or the freckle that is perfectly placed on my face. i am not condemning this because even in my life i fall victim to this insatisfaction. however, many things that we envy of other people are often things that we can change ourselves.
before i did parkour i always wanted to do parkour and was envious of those who could, yet i did nothing about my envy. this is the part i don’t understand. if their is something i want that badly, why do i do nothing about it. why do i sit on my computer and flood my facebook status or my tumblr along with other social media sights with what i am not or what i don’t have? why is it so hard to go out a chase those things or to make the changes i need in my life. The pictures we see of people is only a picture. anyone can take a picture to make someone else envious of their life, but they would not wish their life, the person we want to be, on anyone else because it is filled with as much as ours is.
there is a sense in which we should not be okay with where we are, because there is something in ourselves that needs changing. if that were not true, we would be perfect. however, wanting to be someone else is on the other end of the spectrum. i have no issue with adapting a persons style because you like the style or doing your hair the way they do because you like it. but if you like it, do it! don’t just tell us that you love the hair style and envy the person they have it and you don’t. go get your hair cut and have it. or wait until it’s long enough and have it!
no satisfaction is to be had in desiring something if we are not willing to chase it!